Basic Emotional Needs Of Men

THE LIST ACCORDING TO MEN

Affection
Sexual Fulfillment
Conversation
Accomplishment
Recreational Companionship
Honesty and Openness
Physical Attractiveness
Financial Support
Domestic Support
Family Commitment
Admiration

A man’s willingness to engage in a process of spiritual deepening will be in direct proportion to whether or not his emotional needs are also being honestly addressed.

WAYS A MAN CAN PROTECT AND DEEPEN HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, AND AT THE SAME TIME, HAVE HIS EMOTIONAL NEEDS MET.

1. Acknowledge that only in genuine, authentic relationship with our Creator, can we ever hope to achieve healthy fulfillment of our basic emotional needs.

2. Become ruthlessly honest with yourself and with your behaviors.

3. Action based on right thinking is the key to healthy change.

4. Pleasing God is the only road to ultimately pleasing yourself.

5. Be willing to change your thinking and to admit you are operating from a faulty viewpoint when what is accurate is made clear to you.

6. Realizing that a life partner cannot meet your emotional needs, they can only partner with you in having your emotional needs met.

7. Life principles must be determined in order for you to clarify who you are and who you want to become. Your “Rules of Life” will be determined by those principles you value and embrace.

8. Motive trumps performance, just as mercy triumphs over judgment. You must be willing to begin again, as many times as it takes.

9. Meditation, simplicity and solitude are foundations that life principles rest upon.

10. Faith must be present in order to find fulfillment as a man.
Hebrews 11:6 Without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him.

The above is taken from some material I wrote recently for a men's retreat. It sparked some good discussion and provided a springboard for personal evaluation. Hopefully, it will do that with you as well. Ladies...though I developed this with men in mind, obviously, your emotional needs are important as well. Perhaps some of this will be helpful to you. Grace to you all.
The Gatekeeper